Perfection, Not Progress?

I’ve been hearing a word being thrown around a lot lately and it’s also been used towards me (in the vein of me needing to let go of it) so I’ve given this a bit of thought. The word is perfectionism.  Here are some of my unpolished thoughts: 1. You’re probably not a perfectionist and […]

I was wrong and I’m sorry

Over the past year, Steve and I have been doing something I suspect many couples do.  Every time we watch a movie at home, we’ve been swapping our personal favorites.  I’m not a big fan of Rom-Coms or Roms for that matter, so he’s not been tortured in that way.  My top 20 list includes […]

You Raise Me Up

Last weekend, I went to a really sweet wedding of two people who have been through a lot in life.  The groom is a widower with several children and multiple grandchildren. The bride had been single all her life and as a 50-something year old, had pretty much given up the hope of being married. […]

Standing Together

My office was closed all week because of Sandy so I stayed home.  I don’t like the fact that the name “Sandy” will be forever associated with devastation and tragedy, at least in this area and in our lifetime.  I was not affected whatsoever, except that I got a week off from work.  My internet […]

Bearing Witness

In the context of a compassionate embrace, our brokenness may appear beautiful, but our brokenness has no other beauty but the beauty that comes from the compassion that surrounds it. – Henri Nouwen ———————– The other night, Steve and I stayed in and we were casually flipping through channels, hoping to find something good to watch. […]

Sankofa: Thoughts On Moving Forward

Today is February 29, 2012.  It’s a leap day.  It’s also the last day of Black History Month.  I really like that we have a Black History Month, but more and more, I’m becoming uncomfortable with that title because Black History isn’t unique to black people.  It’s actually an intrinsic part of American history as […]

Two Sides

Some time ago, I sat down with a friend for dinner and the conversation quickly turned into one about a major crisis that this person was going through.  It was about a fallout that had occurred with someone and how the relationship dissolved without ever really solidifying at all.  I felt a lot of confusion […]

The Promised Land

Yesterday I spent most of the day in the middle of New Jersey.  I had an unlikely epiphany while driving over from my town in Queens to Oradell.  It’s an age old lesson that I continue to learn over and over again but somehow it sunk in deeper yesterday, and I have to admit, in […]