I’ve been thinking lately about how to love a person well.
I’m not sure if I ever figured it out. It’s still a bit mysterious to me.
I started to think about the moments when I feel most loved. Usually, I feel loved when someone speaks a word of affirmation to me, or writes me a letter. It can be as simple as an e-mail. The running theme being that they all contain verbal expression. And I realized this is how I express love to others, too – by verbally expressing my appreciation for another person.
There are times when it gets all jumbled up though, especially with friends who feel loved in totally different ways. So if I write them a super sweet letter, they won’t appreciate it as much as if I gave them a big hug or a tangible gift.
That’s when I started to realize, it can be really important to understand how different people give and receive love. I came across this one book that talks about the five love languages. Of course, it doesn’t cover everything, but I thought it was very helpful, and so here they are:
Words of Affirmation – Feeling especially loved when people express how grateful they are for me, and for simple, everyday thing sthat I do, with their words.
Quality Time – Feeling especially loved when a person gives me undivided attention and spends time alone with me.
Receiving Gifts – Feeling especially loved by someone who brings me gifts and other tangible expressions of love.
Acts of Service – Feeling especially loved when someone pitches in to help me.
Physical Touch – Feeling especially loved when a person expresses feelings for me through physical contact.
What is your top love language? And what is your least?